Some of the other posters are on target here when they say anything can be a story.
You need to develop your ability to relate and express a story. Once you get good at this, you can create interest out of thin air.
Anybody can get attention by telling a story which is in it’s own nature entertaining. That type of ‘good’ material WILL keep attention, but in the end it is the story that is interesting and not you. That is bad.
I cannot express this strongly enough. AVOID INTERESTING STORIES. They can be a mirage, which will lead you away from seduction.
Also keep in mind that ‘interesting’ material can be hijacked. You will be the center of attention, talking about some great topic and then some other guy or CB just has to get in their story or views on the same subject and then boom, you are no longer the center of attention.
Instead develop your ability to make the mundane fascinating. Once you can do this, then your listener will associate good feelings with you and not your material.
For example, I sometimes challenge guys to use their most fascinating material, whether it be palm reading, NLP, a story about seeing two girls fight or whatever and I will just recite my grocery shopping list. Then we will see who does better. That is what you need to do. Get really freaking good at making your groceries interesting. Do that and you will realize that it is not what you talk about, but how you talk about it.
Use dramatic pauses, hooks and expressions. Really get into your story. Also never just spill your story out. Instead make your listeners want to hear more. Pause and look at them. Wait for their interest to show. Play on their curiosity and refuse to ‘entertain’ them. They must show interest on their faces and in their questions or else do not continue – your story and performance is valuable. Try not to just give it away.
As far as sexual stories go, personally I talk about some of the things that have happened to me with other women. This is typically a money subject. The stories subtly relate ideas I want to get across (You may want to relate different ideas) Like I am good in bed, I ama player who is up for a purely sexual relationship, women seek me out, I am high maintenance (If I am considering this girl for mltr) etc… Of course these all appear to be just things that are in the story and not the point of the story so it doesn’t look like I’m bragging or something.
Okay, so here is my recommendation to you:
Everyday in the evening, think of what you did that day and package it into a story.
Practice it a few times and then go out and use the “How are you opener.” That goes like this:
You: “How are you?”
Her: “I’m fine…” or whatever.
Her: “How are you?”
Or if she doesn’t reciprocate you say playfully, “Don’t you think it’s rude to not ask how I
am after I asked how you are?”
Her: “Okay, how are you?”
Note: In general asking a question like this at the beginning of an interaction is
dangerous. You leave yourself open for her to say flatly, “No, I don’t.” The key is to
perform it very playfully. But there is still a chance of being burned here – just figure it
into your calculations.
You: “I’m great. Today I went shopping….” or “I laid on the couch…” or whatever you did
Then the next night, re-write your stories based on what you did that day and so on. You never use the same story twice and you get real good at telling stories.
Remember it’s all on the delivery. Practice saying the most mundane, regular things in an interesting manner. Practice in front of a mirror and consider video recording yourself.
Also, once you get good at ‘performing’ stories you will get good at coming up with material spontaneously. This is because you will know what type of things to look for and where to go. Many guys think that they cannot come up with something to talk about. But the real problem that they don’t realize is that they have too many things to talk about.
Getting good at performing will give you the ability to narrow these choices down and make you ‘quicker thinking’.
- How do you let on that you’re high
- maintenance and that they’d better
- treat you like a king?
I’m pretty direct about this.
Most of the time I’ll just say, “Something I’ve discovered about myself is that, (pause foreffect) I’m high maintenance. I like back rubs, receiving love notes, breakfast in bed, that sort of stuff. I like it when girls take care of me.”
Funny that this should come up. Just last night my teenage girlfriend showed up at my door with a red rose in a vase and a love note. Awww, she is so thoughtful. (By the way, those taking my Denver workshop may get a chance to meet her cause she’s coming out with me since we might go white water rafting later that week.)
Anyway, of course, I remember telling her early on all about me being high maintenance. At the time she just shook her head, but now, during our ‘relationship’, she is providing the maintenance she knows I need.
Keep in mind, telling her I’m high maintenance is in no way a tactic to get her in bed. It comes from the heart. It is a way of letting her know what I want. She probably won’t begin giving me a back rub right there during the sarge (although this does happen much more than it has a right to) but it is a thought that I am planting, to guide the rest of the interaction/relationship. You may want different types of behaviors from a girl.
Some guys only want a girl to come over have sex and then leave. Some guys want a girl who is up for going out and picking up other girls for threesomes. The point is, whatever YOU want is what you should relate here.
See girls, like all people, need something to work towards. But at the same time, they need a path to that goal. If you don’t give them both then they are lost and will do random and counter productive stuff. Almost from the moment I meet a girl, I am telling her things that she can do to win my heart.
One more note. One of the reasons the “I’m high maintenance” thing works is because it is funny. And it is funny because it is startling. Guys just usually don’t say that kind of thing – perform accordingly.